Hey all! Happy Tuesday!
Sorry for the little blog hiatus yesterday. This weekend was just way too much fun with beautiful weather and a much needed date with my husband. The last thing I wanted to do was open up my computer and take time away from my little fam!
Sunday was my husband’s 32nd birthday and we had big plans for the celebration! Well kinda, not really. Just brunch but to me, brunch is a BIG deal! The morning started off at home with coffee for us and donuts for L, easing into the warm sunny day nice and slow. We all got ready and dropped our son off with the sitter around 1130 and I knew that likely I wouldn’t see L again until late Monday night after work.
We met my mother-in-law for brunch at the Depot Street Tavern and oh my gosh was it the best ever. The three of us ordered bloody marys, chicken and waffle eggs benedict (unreal), and all sorts of other yummy foods. We laughed and talked about everything, enjoying the time together without the distraction of a wild toddler running throughout the restaurant causing mayhem. Going out to eat without L is such a different experience now and I truly cherish it haha!
After we finished our meal we brought my mother-in-law back to her home where L was with the sitter. My husband mentioned I probably shouldn’t go in to say “bye” as this usually upsets him A LOT to see me for only a few minutes then have me leave again. Instantly I started getting sad. I almost wanted to call off my fun date with my husband. I felt guilty for leaving L, sad that he would miss me, and sad that the weather was so beautiful and we wouldn’t get to spend it at the park together.
But, it was my husband’s birthday after all so I let those feelings go. I knew that a date with my man was exactly what we needed for our relationship at this time. Lately, life has been busy. We pass by each other before and after work with barely enough time to say a few words. Weeknights are a mad rush to get dinner on the table and L into bed, and most often I am then working away on my computer for a few hours every night. Often times we’re crashing into bed late at night at different times and it just has felt like we needed to rekindle our love a little bit.
Not saying we don’t love each other! But sometimes, life just gets in the way and you realize that you haven’t even kissed your spouse in a few days! So yes, we desperately wanted and needed a date day and I let my guilt about missing L go. My husband drove home and parked our car and we made the short walk downtown to all the restaurants, bars, and shops.
We found a bar with a few TV’s and some big, open windows so we could still enjoy the beautiful sunny day. We ordered a few drinks, chatted with the bartender and a couple next to us, and watched the finals of the golf tournament, something I used to hate but actually enjoyed watching this weekend!
The day was a blast. We talked about everything, good and bad. Life, careers, our future goals, things we are unhappy with right now, our son of course, and just hung out. It felt like our days before kids which truthfully, I find myself missing all the time. Not because I wish we didn’t have our son but I miss the carefree, easy days when it was just the two of us. When we could lay in bed for hours on end on a Saturday, or stay up late having a few too many cocktails (not really, I definitely don’t miss the hangovers)! When we had the time to invest into our relationship regularly, and it was easy. Not a whole process to find a sitter, make sure L is happy and comfortable, and then worry the entire time away if something will happen.
We are incredibly lucky to have a great support system around us to allow us nights out every now and again. It helps make dating my husband so much easier because we have someone we can trust and that L is totally comfortable being with. But that doesn’t mean our date nights are always spent out to eat or doing something crazy.
More often then not we say mid week lets have an at home date night Friday, we put L to bed and make a delicious dinner, pour some drinks and play board games or cards. It just is fun and relaxing and a great way to get back in touch! I know that when we both feel disconnected a simple date, wether home or out, can make a huge difference in our relationship. I love dating my husband still!
Do you and your spouse go on dates ever? Are they out or at home most of the time?