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  1. lungingthroughlife

    Aw I love this. So often I can’t get my husband to want to leave our kiddo to go out, ha. He misses her so much during the week. I also say we’ll plan dates but then I’m tired or I hate bothering people to watch her. but you’re right- it’s important for us to date our spouse.

    • Annie

      That is so cute he doesn’t want to leave her!! Love that! I think if my MIL weren’t so willing to help we’d never go on dates truthfully. Finding a reliable sitter is so hard!

  2. hollymdowning

    My husband and I are terrible at this, especially with a 6 month old daughter now. But I have been reminded lately how important it is to do things with just the two of us and am planning a fun birthday ‘date’ for him next month. I might need to add brunch to the agenda 🙂

    • Annie

      Brunch should always be on the agenda!! But really the first 6 months, maybe even longer, we didn’t do all that much together. We were exhausted and still worried about leaving the baby. It’s easier now that he’s older and his schedule is more predictable!

  3. I definitely think it’s important to date your spouse especially after kids come along.. but in saying that I haven’t had a date with my husband in months and months! Even just to have a conversation without being interrupted by the kids and their never ending demands is a challenge! Good on you for rekindling your love – even though it hurts to be away from the kids sometimes!

    • Annie

      It’s hard to make the time and sometimes we don’t even notice when months have gone by! I hope you and your husband get some time together soon!

  4. alittleheavenly

    It’s always nice to have a good date night when life gets too busy! My husband and I always try to spend time together since there are times where it seems like the days just fly by.

  5. Wow this is so good my husband and I don’t have kids yet but we both work a few jobs and we don’t always get to see each other as much as we like so think is a great article for me!

    • Annie

      Seriously life is so busy with or without kids!! It’s such a hard balance but glad you found it helpful! 🙂

  6. Lily

    We need to do this more. I just feel so bad bringing KC to the sitter after he’s been at daycare all week. But it would make such a difference in our lives I think.

  7. That sounds to me like he had a great birthday. I dont have any kiddos but i do think it is important to keep the spark between yourself and your SO burning, to make sure you are both the happiest you can be.

    • Annie

      We had a great time!! I agree, so important for relationships to not let things fizzle out!

  8. Elyce P.

    I hear you, lady! I never see Josh………ever. At least you and my cousin are making time for one another! That’s so important. I think Josh and I make it a twice annual thing (spending a night together), if that……due to our completely opposite work schedules! I commend you for making that effort! IT stinks not seeing your spouse. PS, happy birthday to Matty and tell him I said he’s getting old! (ha). Love you guys.

  9. My husband and I are trying to do better about implementing dates. If the weather is nice we always go hiking and try to go to a nice restaurant at least once a month

  10. I’m glad you had a great weekend! It’s good to take a blog break sometimes. My husband and I go on dates once a month. It really gives us something to look forward to and is fun!

  11. I needed to read this. My husband and I have been feeling those same “disconnected” vibes lately and now he’s away for work. I adore my husband, and your feelings about missing those “just you two” days is spot on! I love my son so much and would die for him, as you said; but it definitely is nice to have an evening with him alone! We do the friday night “at-home” dates too and they make a world of difference! Thanks for reminding me that it’s time for some marriage love <3

  12. Jess

    I totally agree it’s hard to leave the kiddos with a sitter and go on a date with the hubby, but all marriages need alone time thank you for the reminder!

  13. My hubby and I were just talking about this! We have been so busy that we haven’t gone on a date in such a long time! Our anniversary is coming up so we are going to have to make it a special affair! thanks for the encouragement to keep dating our husbands!

  14. amongstouts

    This was such a great read! My husband and I love going on dates. We notice a difference in each other when we have not made time to date. It is really important to us, we love doing a kid free dinner, but we have also enjoyed movies at home or theater, shopping for groceries, or just browsing the mall… we don’t care how simple!

    • Annie

      So true, it doesn’t have to be a big extravagant night! Some of my favorite times are just simple walks in the morning, even with kiddos in tow in the stroller. But it gives us time to talk and reconnect without chasing around a wild child.

  15. Yes! This is so important and yet somehow, it’s also so easy to let slip to the side while “important things” are going on! I’m so guilty of that. And yes, other things are important, but so is my spouse 🙂

  16. everydaynatalie1

    We go on weekly dates and have for years. It’s the best glue for marriage 🙂

  17. I’m not married, and I’m no where close to that stage in life. However, I have read about going on dates with your spouse, and I’ve only heard great things! When I reach that stage, I definitely want to incorporate that into our lives. It’s a great way to keep the love and interest alive!

    • Annie

      It’s definitely fun and totally necessary once you get there. For now, enjoy the freedom! 🙂

  18. amh2006

    I need to be better about this! Since my daughter came along, we miss our time together when it was just “us.” I think I will be scheduling a date night soon!

    • Annie

      It’s hard to find the time but so nice to reconnect! I hope you get out for your date soon! 🙂

  19. one of the hardest parts of having a child for me is we don’t have a support system so my husband and i never got to have a “date” in 2.5 years! We ended up making movie date nights that started after bed time to help with this. it worked great. cuddles, popcorn. not perfect but better

    • Annie

      That really is so hard. My husband and I say all the time how lucky we are to have family willing and able to help with our son. It must be hard to find the time without your “village” around but date nights in can be just as fun!!

  20. Yes!!! Dating your spouse is so important!! We try to do a pizza night every friday night where we make pizza together and watch a movie, and then at least one other night a week we watch a show, or try to go out to dinner if we can get a friend to watch Adeline.

  21. Thats so sweet! My husband and I have date day once a month. It really helps us remember what we are doing together and why. I get so busy, that sometimes I forget.

    • Annie

      Oh gosh medical school. I cannot even imagine the crazy schedules with that! Good for him (and you for being patient!)

  22. My husband and I are bad about going on actual dates. We were even before we had a kid too! But our anniversary is coming up and we will for sure do something fun!

    • Annie

      We don’t always get out for dates but even just quality time at home after the kids are in bed can be so nice! Hope you guys doing something fun for your anniversary! 🙂

  23. We’re expecting our first baby in about 2 months and counting. For Christmas, I made my husband a post-baby date jar filled with dates mostly at home and some out which I thought we could pick from when we need some alone time!

    • Annie

      That is a genius idea! I love it! I should make something like that for my husband for Fathers Day! Congrats on the baby, hope you are feeling well 🙂

  24. Justine @ Little Dove

    I agree, dating your spouse is so important for your relationship. It sounds like you had a fun birthday date together, brunch is the best!

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