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  1. Faye

    I think I would try to figure out what causes the tantrums. Confusion, frustration, strong will etc. I would also confirm all of L’s caregivers are on the same page as you. If there are different standards with different caregivers, he may be confused. However my guess is L is strong willed and wants what he wants when he wants it. You may just have to tough it out until he understands.

  2. my son is 22 months, and also a big, active boy like L! I totally agree with your hesitation to put him in a bed–I think you’d lose a lot of sleep in the process and I;m sure you’re tired enough as it is! that’s really rough about getting his thighs caught, though! my son also has HUGE thighs, though has only gotten stuck once…maybe the particular design of your crib makes it tougher? I don’t know anything about bumpers…are there any different designs that you could try that might keep him from getting his legs out? are there styles that are more rigid, or can be tied tighter? I guess that’s the only thing you can work with here, unless you want to take the plunge and put him in a bed! (personally, i am hoping to keep him in the crib until he climbs out.)

    my son is also in the tantrum stage–sometimes I literally think I see steam coming out of his ears! I think this is just par for the course, especially for very powerful little boys who have so much energy to blow off. I feel you. I often feel like my son is the most active, strongest, loudest one in the bunch, and there are so many benefits to this, but along with it comes HuGE tantrums. you should see some of our diaper changes these days! horrendous.

    • Annie

      Yes!!! So much yes to everything you said. Our boys sound exactly the same haha!

      I’ve been googling options for bumpers and think I found the perfect solution at target (of course. Target has everything). It’s a bumper that goes all the way up and covers the top rail even so he can’t kick through at all. And it’s mesh so a bit safer I guess. Hoping it’ll help! He got caught again at midnight last night!

      I hope your tantrum phase comes to an end soon!!

      • yes, they definitely sound similar! It always makes me feel better to see/hear about other kids who are like mine. glad you found some new bumpers that might improve things for the thigh situation 🙂 it is hard when you have a tough situation that is due to external factors (like silly crib bar design)–it isn’t like L is doing anything wrong here!

        Yeah, the tantrums can be so tough. I thank my lucky stars that my son generally saves his for at home, where no one can see us! Though he did have a breath holding meltdown at the grocery story a few weeks ago, upon which a woman gave me a look that basically said “you are a terrible mother.” And then I told her off, which is very unlike me. It was the worst! I think “this too shall pass” is the best mode of action with stuff like this, they grow out of it in time and with as much patience as you can muster. (though honestly, I loose my cool all the time, too!) I think distracting them is a good thing to try–like, “hey, look! a lollipop!” I’d be happy to give my son a drink or a lollipop to avoid a public meltdown, but usually when he’s mad, nothing helps him but cooling down on his own time! I am sure you are handling it all great–it is not easy parenting toddlers, and some can be trickier than others!

  3. lungingthroughlife

    Hmm, the crib is puzzling. I truthfully wouldn’t try a big boy bed. I am guessing it’s a phase and he will learn, but gosh that’s so hard! For the tantrums, we don’t give in. If she’s throwing one, she is removed from wherever she is and we try to talk to her. Most times it doesn’t work but she calms down on her down. But at the park or in a store is harder. I’ve been there for sure. The carseat after a park is always the worst. I try to talk through what we’re doing first. Like on the way to the car “we’re going to go home and eat lunch and play with so and so” But I also have taken her out of the carseat and talked to her to calm her down. Tantrums are crazy, ha. I haven’t really done time out just because she does listen to us and will calm down and return to whatever she should be doing.

    • Annie

      I will try to talk to him more! I get frustrated since he is and I’m sure that makes things worse.

      As for the crib… happened again last night, at midnight 🙄 hoping to find a Greta bumper at target!

  4. Dawn

    We transitioned Seamus to a toddler bed with a railing at about that age…actually, I think he was around 16 months. He started flinging himself out of the crib in a really dangerous way. At the time I was working at Tufts and the Dean that I worked with had a husband who was a trauma surgeon and she said “get him out of the crib as soon as that potential for injury happens”. You may have to deal with a few days of repeatedly putting him back to bed if he won’t stay put but it beats the potential for injury or need for fire department intervention if he really gets stuck.

  5. Tantrums are so tough. You are probably in a more difficult spot since he is still so young. As he develops more vocabulary, things should improve. I remember my son would bang his head on the wall at that age….yikes! My son is 2.5, and he does have them, although they seem to be improving. I try to make sure he does not get too tired, and I don’t give him attention when he has them. I make sure he is safe, but I find when the audience (me) is not watching, they get bored more quickly and move on.

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